I try to be as unobtrusive and discreet as possible so not to interrupt the natural flow of events.
There may be a time when formal groups need to be taken (if requested), but this is always done quickly, efficiently and with good humour to form part of the celebrations.
If the couple have arranged to include some traditional elements such as kissing the chimney-sweep, confetti, giving the bride a horse shoe, cutting the cake, toasting, throwing the bouquet, first dance etc, etc, I will ensure these are captured as they happen with a minimum or no orchestration from me unless requested to do so.
As the wedding photographer I am there to take pictures, lots of them, capturing not only the main elements but also the little things that make up the fabric of the day. Even so, it's difficult not to get drawn into the buzz of all the preparations and have often been asked to help out with button holes and advise on wedding protocol. On occasions I have found myself raising spirits when things were not going to plan (they rarely do!) but I'm always ready to help out to make the day special and happy for everyone.
"We just wanted to say a huge thank you for everything you did for us before, during and after the wedding. We were so lucky that you gave us your time to do the perfect job which was just right for us. Everyone commented on how professional, friendly and fun you were. We were so pleased with the photographs and have lots of them framed around our home. Many thanks, with love from.....LAURA & BEN"